I've been wondering for a lot of the day what I was going to post about because I've spend the last couple days couped up in my apartment with the flu. And then I watched a video.
If you don't know who Laci Green is, she's worth looking up on YouTube. Her most recent video is on objectifying women, in the media but also in real life. This video made me take a step back and look at even the text that I had just sent one of my bestfriends. Laci Green has made me question things before but this one is really big. Here's the link to the video : http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=u_4dPB9MVS8&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3Du_4dPB9MVS8
I think my biggest issue is how much I can identify with this video. That my personal issues with my body stem from the fact that I have spent my entire life being shown how to impress men, and what they find desirable. I've tried to mold myself into this thing that men will want and if I feel like I've failed myself I feel horrible for days after. My life has been about dressing, acting, and talking to men how I think they want. And you know what? I've never actually felt good enough.
Take for example my current love interest. I don't send him a snap chat if I don't feel like I look good enough, because even though he's seen me look worse before, the fact that now he's intrested in me changes how I want him to see me. I don't want him to see me when I'm sick and have no colour in my face. It's actually kind of disgusting because I see how much these things have controlled my life. My current guy also, I feel like my need to impress him in so high that if it doesn't work out it must have been something i did. Yeah I know it sound absurd but it really is true.
Ladies if you look at your love life, when you're first dating someone, or talking to some one have your ever subconiously tweaked yourself to what you feel is more desirable. Taken up more of an interest in sports, wore a certain colour, or even just some more make up? When I do this it's to impress and I never catch myself until after the fact. That was until I did start catching myself. About a year ago I had to step back and say "I really don't give a shit about that sport, or video games" did it change my life? No. But it was the start of the realization that this video made go full circle.
Is this sudden realization going to make me break things off with this boy that I now know night not want my best interest? No I can't be that quick to judge. But I can defiantly be more cautious than I already am about relationships, because objectifying is seriously a problem. Pay attention you might see it in your every day lives, no matter how big or small it is. No men don't disgust me more of society, and a certain population of me.
Leave you thoughts in the comments below!
Until next time,
Love, Kate
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